Let’s face it, we live a society where curves are not the norm and any size above a 2 is considered fat. So we have broads starving themselves, puking up last night’s snack, sucking fat out of their asses, and whatever the hell else women do to conform to Anglo-Saxon standards of beauty. I’m not saying, by any means, to be a slob and not eat right, to not work out, or don’t maintain a healthy lifestyle but what I AM SAYING is that you don’t have to be a stick figure to do it…….which leads me to my topic!
Since I can remember, I have always been the biggest girl in my crew. Now I am not the brickhouse that I was in high school and college but I’m still a killa! lol That isn’t something that bothers me but what does bother me is my smaller friends think that men wouldn’t be attracted to me first if at all- I am athletic, genuine, warm, college-educated (hell my degree is in exercise science with a specialty in kinesiology), self-confident, intelligent, and pretty- if I must say so myself- I just come with more meat on my bones………. Case and point.
We all go out and yes I like to dress provocatively but not like a streetwalker. There is a difference. While most of my friends have their asses and tits out, I try to maintain some kind of class besides just because they make it in your size doesn’t mean it’s for you. We’ve all seen those big girls with poon poon shorts and cropped tube tops like, “Take me as I am!” What the hell? That is a hot mess! I don’t wanna see a skinny chick with her ass hanging out let alone your big ass! lmao I digress……… Without fail, if a guy approaches me, smiles, or gives me a compliment, they get all giddy with joy like, “You go girl! He is looking at you!! Damn, girl, he is all over you!” I used to just smile and carry on until it just KEPT happening, then I had to stop and think, “Hold up! Do these chicks think that a guy is doing me a favor by talking to me because I’m a big girl? Do they subconsciously think they are finer than moi because they are smaller?” Maybe they think they are boosting my self-esteem by making a spectacle of themselves everytime a guy says something to me? I finally said, ” Do yall really think that I have a problem attracting men? Hell, I am prettier than all of you.” Mouths fell open like I was the bitch…..It was cool when they were cheering me on with their “skinny girls boosting the fat chick’s self-esteem antics” but when I express confidence and say that I look good and that men find me attractive- I have the issue. How does that work? So basically they would be better if I was walking around with my head down and wondering why nobody wanted to dance with the pathetic lil fat chick…..Get the fuck outta here. I am that deal! I’m pretty AND sexy as hell. I rock heels, have mad swagger and damn sure ain’t about to let some skinny broad think she is flyer than me!
So I just began to observe groups of women- in all settings, especially ones with a big girl in the group, and I studied how they responded and interacted with her in regards to men. The observations were unnerving to say the least. For the most part, the skinny girls spent their time hyping up the big girl to do some outlandish, extra shit to be noticed. They pump her up to dance like a slut, or take extra drinks, or talk super loud to catch the attention of men that don’t want her……I know you’ve seen that! So the big girl puts on a show for the guys and yes she gets attention because she looks like an easy lay….What guy wouldn’t go for that? Your friends are helping you! Skinny girls do shit for attention too- they just don’t have to go the extra mile to get it……..Why are you playing yourself big girl? Whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy? lmao Where is your pride? Why are you acting like Sideshow Bob for goodness sake? Your skinny friends aren’t acting ridiculous and neither should you….If you have self-esteem issues- GET YOUR ASS TO A GYM AND GET SOME COUNSELING BUT DAMN IT- DON’T PLAY YOURSELF FOR ATTENTION. It’s embarassing and you need to choose another group of friends….hell, find some chicks bigger than you so that YOU can be the skinny one in your crew but get it together!
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May 9, 2008 at 2:39 pm
Your hot! don’t let anyone say anything to you
May 14, 2008 at 7:34 pm
Hello!
I think that a big girl should not behave as a slut to get attention.
If she is confortable in her head with her shape and is confident about her own worth, she can project a nice friendly image that will get the attention of some nice guys.
Dont think that ALL men go ONLY for the toothpicks shape girls. I know for sure that some actually prefer a big girl, I am one of them!
I find them to be more sensual, and if they are confident about themselves, they can be quite fun to be around. Of course if they go around having a very bad image about themselves and think that if a man expresses interesse in them, he is about to make fun of them or must be some kind of pervert because inside she absorbed the toothpick culture from the magazines, she wont be fun to be around with, but it is her own fault, not the guy’s fault. Many big girls are in fact their own worst enemies!… My advice is be confident and have a big smile on your face. Dont push away the men with a negative self defense attitude! There is someone ou there for you too, just give them a little encouragement with a warm smile! I know that it is difficult because you got quite a bit of mockery, but it is the problem of those who did the mockery, because they are sick in their head. it is NOT YOUR problem. You have the right to have the shape you want! There is absolutely NOTHING to be ashamed of!!! So SMILE!
May 15, 2008 at 2:57 am
Alain…uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuummmm I think you are mistaken….I have great self-esteem and have never put myself in a position to be mocked….Re-read please..This is a message of empowerment for big girls that put themselves in that position…..By no means do I lack confidence or dignity.
May 20, 2008 at 10:25 am
I want to smuther your big black ass with strawberries and whipped cream then lick it off
May 20, 2008 at 1:01 pm
Now Folks….This Matt dude is a complete fucking idiot….you probably can tell he jerks off alone at home! *smh*